Oh yeah, this will rev up the readers… well, all 4 of them. I know my lack of viewing audience, people aren’t necessarily sharing me and I can’t say I blame them. Never know what’s going to come out of my mouth… sometimes *I* don’t even know!!!
So hubby and I watch 4 different shows every night/week for dinner. It scrolls between Arrow, Supergirl, The Flash, and Legends of Tomorrow (all “super hero/comic” type shows). We watched Legends a while ago, has female to female devotion. Love? Action? It’s not like there’s sex on the screen, just like you’d see any other love seen, kissing, a little grabbing, etc. At the time I thought “Ok, so, catering to the fan boys that will like that I guess?” 2016
Then we started watching Arrow and liked it. Still do. Happened a little later in the series but have one of the characters talk about his husband. That received a little “Huh” from me. 2015
Had a little “sneak preview” while watching Legends to see one of the other series have two lesbians get together after one of the ladies’ sister told her to be honest with her self. Good advice but still… ok.
It was finally on the Flash with the police chief going on about the wedding and lunch plans with his fiance, and him being picky, etc, that I think I finally thought “Why is there a gay couple in each of these shows?”
I had that thought a few more times over the times we’ve watched all of them… months this has been happening. Not really aggravated by it, only mildly “annoyed” in that it would catch my attention for something that was really a side line… and then it hit me. Today as I was watching Arrow, again there was discussion about the “husband” and I thought “Why does this keep coming up? Who cares?.” And yes, that’s when I finally said it to myself.
What wouldn’t three be a gay/lesbian couple? Who cares about any of the relationships? We have A kissing B or B kissing And that’s just waved off as normal. Doesn’t even get noticed by us. But now A is kissing A and brains are thinking “Why are they focusing on this? Goodness, they’re just trying to push into everything!”.
And I’m guilty of it too. This does make me feel ashamed. But it also shows me that it’s not always the act itself (and I know the idea of the act is big for some/a bunch of people), but for us “We don’t care, enjoy” folks… it’s a jar to our normal way of things. Changing the way things are, even if it’s just a matter of including something that shouldn’t be a big deal and that “we” don’t get mad or even annoyed about, is annoying in that it’s changed our viewing of programs. What used to be “simple” is a different kind of “simple”.
So, we’re trying. We’re not being “nasty” when we ask why there are more of the “LGBTQ+” on our TV shows and in our movies. It might not be that we’re annoyed at it happening. It could be we’re just not used to seeing it as “normal every day life”. It’s like getting Kraft Mac and Cheese and the box is now red instead of blue. Same thing, same ingredients, same stuff, but it looks different and it jars us out of our shopping routine.
It’ll get there. It’s just going to take some time. Be patient with us.