“I’m so completely over this whole “marriage” vs. “civil union” thing. So, I’m no longer “married”. I’m in a “civil union” with my husband. “Civil” is a lot better than what a lot of marriages are like anyway.”
That was the status that got me on this. And I know there are people that are going to argue with me no matter what I say here, but I’m gonna say it anyway because I’ll be damned if I’m gonna just sit back and ignore this anymore.
What the hell, people? Really? We’re being ridiculous over this? And I mean BOTH sides of this issue. So, ‘civil union’ is what the straight people are saying the gay people should be happy with, and the gay people are saying that they want to be married. Now, let’s look at this:
“Marriage” is, traditionally, a religious thing. It is. Cope with that. I’m not saying that’s right or that’s the way it should still be, but it IS what it is. “Holy matrimony” is religious stuff. Religious people, by and large, seem to believe that “marriage” is between a man and a woman (unless your church is the Mormon church and then it can be between one man and however many women want to put up with your shit, but that’s not legal either… and that’s a completely different argument that I don’t care about).
“Civil union” is, as far as I can gather, what ‘they’ have tried to give gays (and mind you, I’m using the term ‘gays’ because typing lgbt (lesbian gay bisexual transgender) is not gonna come out of my hands and y’all will just have to cope. Take it up with Sherri if you don’t like it) so they can have a union while still keeping the religious folks happy by not giving them marriage. I’ve been told that the two are very similar but that civil unions aren’t recognized in every state (maybe only in the state it was performed).
So, are we clear? Good. I’m sure I’ll have a lot of corrections lining up in the comments by morning, and go ahead. I’ll take actual corrections, I want to base my opinion on some facts. 🙂
So….. first, why aren’t civil unions recognized in all states? Why isn’t it crossing state lines? My opinion here is because there have been some pushes for ‘gay marriage’ in states which gets put on a ballot and then gets defeated because everyone and their cat takes out ads on TV to lie about what it is (BOTH sides). They get defeated and nothing ever gets done about civil unions. Why? Because they’ll fail too, right? Well…. who knows.
Second… All y’all straight people DO realize that your happy little marriage certificate doesn’t give you anything that a lawyer can’t, don’t ya? ANYONE can go do a lawyer, draw up some papers, and give someone the same rights as a marriage certificate does (and it would likely stand up in court better). In fact…. y’all gay people know that too, don’t ya? It’d likely cost a little more, but you CAN have the same rights… and then you can have a party with your friends and family that like you and would love to share your joy, and then you can tell people all you want that you’re legally bound to each other. 🙂 No, of course that’s not the ‘fix’ to it all, but aren’t there more important things to be worrying about? I mean, honestly…. Kids are being abused, they’re starving, they’re getting gyped in schools because we’re making cuts to education instead of to benefits for people that find it easier than working (and, again, I mean exactly what I said. People that are trying, people that can’t work are not who I’m talking about here, I’m talking about lazy Joe Schmo who is able bodied but finds it isn’t necessary to actually do anything)… People are out of work that are trying really hard to find work but there isn’t any… Old folks can’t afford medication, are home bound without a way to get to the store, are lonely and alone, are sitting in nursing/retirement homes feeling unloved… soldiers are dying everywhere, and they’re not even CLOSE to getting paid what they should be for what they do…
But no, we’re more worried about this. We’re more worried that “God”, who MADE THESE PEOPLE, might get mad if you agree they should have some rights. We’re more worried about whether you can actually ‘legally’ use the term ‘married’ instead of just saying it for your civil union because everyone that likes you will know what you mean, and everyone that doesn’t like you can kiss your ass anyway. We’re holding on to a 7 little letters (6 different letters), and making a huge deal out of something that’s, honestly, a whole waste of time.
Why? Because a bunch of people get married every time they make it legal somewhere… are those people actually wanting to get married or are they doing it because now they can? There have already been a few divorces from the first ‘wave’ (and probably lots we won’t ever hear about), and there will be more. It’s a little piece of paper and a bunch of legal statutes that may or may not actually stand up in court, depending on the situation. You’d be better off with a lawyer (I can’t believe I’m saying that).
“Marriage” should be harder to get… ya wanna talk about how expensive it is… Guess what? It’s not. The party is expensive (well, for some people it is). The actual marriage part is only about $30 I think (it’s been a while). The divorce, on the other hand… it costs hundreds, and sometimes thousands of dollars.
Ya know, a very wise man once said to me “Kiddo, divorce should be cheap and marriage should be expensive. People would think a lot more about doing it before jumping into it.” And he was right, very, very right. We’re happy to spend lot of money on this party that goes with it, but that’s not really it… that’s all party. You can have a party anytime. You can have a party every 5 years or 10 years if you want. It doesn’t make you any more married.
Think, people. Why is thinking so hard nowadays?